The Public Humanist

For Equality Only, We Wish to Contend

Betty Friedan, right, and Kathryn F. Clarenbach of the University of Wisconsin at the second annual National Organization for Women (NOW) in Washington D.C. in 1967.

Betty Friedan, right, and Kathryn F. Clarenbach of the University of Wisconsin at the second annual National Organization for Women (NOW) in Washington D.C. in 1967.

When Betty Friedan died, I cried. I do not recall ever crying about someone’s death for a person unknown to me, but I did. I visited the NOW website and wrote this tribute to her in 2006:

When I was in my teens, a neighborhood woman with whom I was friendly, handed me Ms. Friedan’s book and said “Here you read it, it’s too late for me.” I did and Ms. Friedan’s words have been a guiding force throughout my life. In feminist studies classes, at parties, in church, as a teacher, in any part of my life, I have spoken out for feminism. Only now, upon reading Ms. Friedan’s obituary in the Boston Globe, did I realize how much I had internalized Ms. Friedan’s beliefs and I quote “It seemed to me that men weren’t really the enemy – they were fellow victims, suffering from an outmoded masculine mystique that made them feel unnecessarily inadequate.” I tell my students that feminism benefits everyone and allows people to be fully human.

My words allowed me to share my definition of feminism on NPR during their radio tribute to Ms. Friedan. To me, a feminist is a person who embraces all aspects of his or her humanity. Feminism frees men and women to be whole people. It is sad that today “feminist” often has a negative connotation, since feminism’s efforts have destabilized the culturally limited interpretations of gender and race resulting in a more welcoming society.

My view of feminism is not new. Massachusetts history contains many feminists who espoused full-humanity for men and women as well as equal political, educational, and occupational opportunities. Before the Declaration of Independence, Abigail Adams called for attention to women on March 31, 1776 with her “Remember the Ladies” letter in which she reminded her husband John that “all Men would be tyrants if they could. If perticuliar care and attention is not paid to the Laidies we are determined to foment a Rebelion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any Laws in which we have no voice, or Representation.” Judith Sargent Murray (1751-1820) wrote “On the Equality of the Sexes” for The Massachusetts Magazine in 1790 and called for all women to have intellectual and employment opportunities at least equal to those of men, observing that “the same breath of God animates, enlivens, and invigorates us.”

Margaret Fuller's "Woman in the Nineteenth Century" is considered the first major feminist work in the United States.

Margaret Fuller’s “Woman in the Nineteenth Century” is considered the first major feminist work in the United States.

In the 1830s, Margaret Fuller, a member of the Transcendentalist Movement, wrote for The Dial that, “male and female represent the two sides of the great radical dualism. But, in fact, they are perpetually passing into one another. Fluid hardens to solid, solid rushes to fluid. There is no wholly masculine man, no purely feminine woman.” Crushed under the weight of restrictions on education, movement, clothing, and relationships, male and female feminists demand change. How much energy is wasted when women or persons of color are repressed, threatened, denied, or owned by others? Why is female equality viewed as so threatening?

Margaret Fuller presaged the words of Betty Friedan in this same Dial essay saying, “many women are considering within themselves what they need that they have not, and what they can have, if they find they need it.” When Friedan wrote in 1963, “the problem lay buried, unspoken, for many years in the minds of American women. It was a strange stirring, a sense of dissatisfaction……Is this all?” she reflected Murray’s sentiments of woman’s “want of a cultivated mind.” While these women represented the frustrations of educated, privileged, and white women, movements are often started by people with little time or finances to pursue matters of the intellect and heart. Embracing its original trajectory however, feminism has expanded and welcomed inclusiveness over the centuries.

Feminism’s goal is for women and men to achieve equality—living into a world that eradicates discrimination and poverty. Why is it acceptable that 51% of America’s children now live below the poverty line? Not everyone wants to be a CEO, but paying men and women an equal and living wage demands a feminist level of respect for humanity. Margaret Fuller observed that “what woman needs is not as a woman to act or rule, but as a nature to grow, as an intellect to discern, as a soul to live freely, and unimpeded to unfold such powers as were given her…” Poverty would not thrive if a woman’s wages and contributions to the economy reflected her value.

Murray, though, had a sense of humor. While explaining that since nature is impartial and most men have more physical strength than women, “we should be induced to imagine, that she had invested the female mind with superior strength as an equivalent for the bodily powers of man. But waving this however palpable advantage, for equality only, we wish to contend.”

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